better than my FIL who knows im dieting and buys me unhealthy things? 🤣 he showed up at my house yesterday with a box of donuts.... which i ate. but anyways, take things with a grain of salt. you know what you're doing, keep being a healthier you!
27 Mar 22 by member: kaylinrenee
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LOL it is hard to pass on donuts. Thank you kaylinrenee 😊
27 Mar 22 by member: Asarver
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27 Mar 22 by member: writingwyo
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I think people just get used to seeing us a certain way and can’t handle the change. As long as you have healthy habits and are happy keep focusing on you. The ones we love can often hurt us the most.
27 Mar 22 by member: Shake Those Pounds
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His overweight perspective applied to you may be a knock you down to climb up attack. If he does it again, you can smile sweetly and offer that it appears he has found what you lost. Maybe add that you're sorry for his declining health. I feel that sometimes giving as good as you get, is a good lesson for both.
27 Mar 22 by member: SLYONE 22
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It was very rude and unacceptable for both your father and FIL - Stay healthy - You know what's best for you - You do you and God bless
27 Mar 22 by member: msbentley411
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The best comeback is none. Their comments don’t need or deserve one. Otherwise just say that you are working on creating a healthier lifestyle for yourself and the loss of a few pounds is a nice by product. Smile and go about your business. Then just keep on going— doing your weight control program. And if they come to dinner, make a point of making a wonderful tasting recipe that is HEALTHIER. Lots of us here would have some great recipes to offer you.
27 Mar 22 by member: Kenna Morton
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I believe our own thoughts do the most mental dann mmm age. Being healthy is primary, imho, to any weight loss. Larry, retired MD
27 Mar 22 by member: larrybanyash
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They are projecting. If they are overweight, anyone who is fine is "too skinny." Hit them with the medical stats, and show them that even a few % above this range is health adverse. Also, some men have a weird fetish thing with fuller women. 100% their problem.
27 Mar 22 by member: magana.tanya1
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OHHH! I'm so sorry that happened to you! Where to people (men and women) learn this kind of behavior (conversation)? We have been taught that it's not polite to talk about a woman's age OR her weight - either to her or behind her back - I mean, right? Or maybe some people are just Neanderthals? Anyway, this is YOUR journey! YOU say what is or IS NOT working. Being overweight was NOT working for you so you made a change. We ALL have your back here!!!!
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27 Mar 22 by member: 3dkids2
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You didn't say how tall you are, but 130 lbs. is perfect on someone who is 5'6". If you are 5'9", then yeah, you would look actress-thin. Don't worry about what everyone else says. Do you feel light and healthy? Do clothes look good? I measure thinness by trouble spots: back fat, round belly, collarbone, thighs touching. When all of those are fixed, I can stop losing weight. Until then, f*ck everyone's unsolicited opinions. Otherwise, just ask your FIL if he's asking you for diet tips. Then politely ask him what his body fat percentage is, how much he weighs, and a whole bunch of other question that are none of your business. He'll get the hint.
27 Mar 22 by member: JustBananas
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Yup 👍 you got it right, girl! It’s just misogyny lol and he means well but for real!! Where do people get off sharing a negative review of YOUR appearance?! It’s horse 🐴 💩. So, here at FatSecret we promote wellness and don’t support body shaming. Unless it’s Diablo bc he’s just, well, Diablo lol and it’s funny. Anyway I digress. Please don’t let your FIL get in your head, don’t let him live rent free there. You said it yourself: you’ve been doing the work and you’ve already lost the weight, so KUDOS to you! Not knowing u or your FIL at all, I just am extrapolating that weight is a common subject to discuss with your family? If I might make a suggestion? I would find everything you described as very distressing. So, next time anyone starts to comment on your body- be it your size, your appearance, anything- simply say “That’s nice and thank you for sharing your thoughts… but it’s not helpful for me to have this conversation”
27 Mar 22 by member: KayBuckaroo
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I feel for you. Just keep doing what you're doing..some people will not change or understand how you feel. I lost almost 50 lbs by following a healthy diet and my Italian MIL always asked me if I was anorexic. It really bothered me and my hubby would even tell her I was eating. I did eventually tell her it bothered me but she never stopped...💜💜
27 Mar 22 by member: Diana 1234
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27 Mar 22 by member: Asarver
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I was thinking the same thing, Shake Those Pounds! I will try my best 🦵
27 Mar 22 by member: Asarver
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DJinVegas, FIL is father in law. I know he's been trying to lose weight, and he probably didn't mean anything by it, but it just kept spinning around in my head 😔
27 Mar 22 by member: Asarver
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SLYONE 22, I'll keep that in mind! 😁 thanks!
27 Mar 22 by member: Asarver
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Thank you, msbentley411 ❤ God bless you too!
27 Mar 22 by member: Asarver
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Thank you, Kenna! I do invite my mother in law over, she likes more of the food I cook 😆
27 Mar 22 by member: Asarver
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Yes, I agree larrybanyash! I think I kind of got too much in my head, and it just brought up everything from when I was a teen. I'm feeling better now, thank you for your support!
27 Mar 22 by member: Asarver
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