amber.hali's Journal, 02 Jan 21

I'm sorry that is really horrible of him to say, especially as he would know it would hurt you. I'm sure said it out of anger and did not mean it. You are beautiful inside and out, you are trying your best which is already a hard and incredible step! Always easier said than done but focus on doing this for you. Every step of the way you will feel better and before you know it you won't know what to do with all your confidence!!🌸 My brother often says it to me, even when we not fighting!  

I use comments like that as motivation. No point in letting it bother you or change the course of your journey. 

This is so sad to read. I don't know what you were arguing about that would cause him to dish out such harsh and unacceptable comments, but I do know sometimes people say things just to hurt you to win an argument, not realising the total effect of the pain they inflicted. Best to ignore these comments and remember that you are working to improve yourself. One day you will be where you want to be weight wise and he will have no more ammunition to hurt or humiliate him. You are so much more than someone elses narcissist tendencies to belittle you only to make them look better. You stood up and decided to change your life for the better, don't forget how big that is. You are working your plan, keep at it and show everyone what hard work and consistancy can do.  

Agree with Mike, turn venom like that into fuel. Also 0,2 isn’t a weight gain, don’t let that silly number get to you...I sometimes get 1kg gain overnight after a cheat day and after 4 days of eating well, it’s back to normal. You’re doing great, think of yourself,your health and happiness. 

Thank you all for the support  

I had two brothers always belittling me about my weight. You choose not to let it get to you. It's probably the only thing they can come up with given the fact that you are going further than them in life! Have a good laugh and show them!!! 

fighting. u can do it.  

You can do this! YOU can!!! You CAN! 

You can do this !! 

use the pain as your fuel and keep going. you can do this❣ 

Words can never be taken back once said...but turn those words into something positive...like what is he going to name you once you reach your goal weight  

I’m so sorry love❤️ your brother is going to regret his words when you reach your goal and you build your confidence up again 

Also please know you really aren’t fat at all I’m quite sure you’re at a normal weight for your age 

Hi Amber - speaking as someone with siblings (although that is a ridiculous and immature horrible comment) they always use the thing that one is most insecure about to attack and hurt you in fights, even when it’s not true. He probably knows all the work you’ve been putting in, and spoke without thinking... although that in no way makes it ok!! But really, he did that on purpose to hurt you, he specifically chose those words so he could “win”, and I know it’s very very painful but please don’t let him break your confidence, you are doing so so well ❤️ I have been there when I was younger, and looking back I probably weighed 55kg at most, but still more than my sisters so I was the fat one 😣