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Good morning FS friends
Is anybody else uplifted by the fact that days are getting longer? Daylight at 6PM is so exciting! Spring is coming and the garden is waiting. Just itching to get back at it.
In the meanwhile, on the home front, John who still visits remains quite ill. He cannot shake the chest infection from November which if it continues will cause him to fail his medical in March and he will not be able to work. When he leaves here he generally is in better shape, but once back at his home he gets sick again. I suspect that it has much to do with his home environment. His house (bought when he left me for alcohol 11 years ago) has been under renovations and hasn't been cleaned since he moved in. Can you imagine the dirt, dust not to mention the rodent problem + waste which has been recurring. With forced air heating all that stuff is blowing around and he is breathing it in It is no wonder. I have suggested that he hire a company to deep clean, and I have a GermGuardian air/hepa filter that I can send along to use in his bedroom, but beyond that he is an adult and responsible for his choices. I suspect that he has been dealing with a decade long untreated depression. Not much I can do about helping (the codependent lives within me still), and so I must accept that at this rate, he won't be with us for long. Sad really. Breaks my heart. A fundamentally good man who had a horrible childhood and never really recovered from that.
I can only control what I do and how I live. Doesn't stop me from worrying about his situation though and there are times I wish I didn't care, but I do. I need an "off" switch.
Over and out
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Fat: 44.70g | Prot: 109.98g | Carbs: 109.31g.
Breakfast: GNC Wheybolic Classic Vanilla, Orgain Organic Protein Plant Based Protein Powder Creamy Chocolate Fudge, GNC Wheybolic Classic Vanilla, Orgain Organic Protein Plant Based Protein Powder Creamy Chocolate Fudge. Lunch: Kraft Sundried Tomato & Oregano Salad Dressing, Egg, Everything Veggie Salad, Deli Turkey or Chicken Breast Meat. Dinner: Trader Joe's Blood Oranges. Snacks/Other: Great Value Chunky Peanut Butter, No Name Cheese Rice Crackers. more...
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To every choice we make, there is a consequence...good or bad. If you don't mind me sticking my nose in? by you not letting go of this individual, you could be closing a door on another that is just waiting to meet you. This someone could be great, loving, attentive, you may already know him, but the door is closed, so he's can't come in. Love yourself enough to open the door. I'm sorry if I've overstepped, but I was were you are....and I finally opened the door. I've never been happier.
07 Feb 24 by member: NosureImthereyet
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Thanks for reminding me that spring is nearly here. It's uplifting, for sure. I'm slowly renovating the main floor of my house, and I'm familiar with the dust and messy situation. I hope to be done by the summer to enjoy the warm weather, walks in the neighbourhood, some downtime in the sunny backyard, and more time for friends and family. I live with family members with serious character flaws, mainly a lack of discipline. After many attempts to help them, I have concluded that it's impossible to help people who do not want to change. So now I am focusing on myself. FS and the people who share their struggles helped me reach and maintain my fitness goals. So, thanks for sharing.
07 Feb 24 by member: Diddly15
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I always celebrate the longer days. My first husband was like yours, terrible childhood. Alcoholic. Very sad.
07 Feb 24 by member: -MorticiaAddams
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Hey nosureimthereyet - funnily enough, for a lark I had a psychic reading last year and she told me that the male energy currently in my life was acting as a cock block (rude but true). I don't know why I cannot entirely let go, or perhaps I do. I have lost all of my nearest and dearest in the last couple of decades, partners, friends whether through death or one (mu oldest friend who was an antivaxxer and disagreed with my personal decision to get vaccinated). Fear of another loss I think is what is holding me back.
Morticia, it always boggles my mind how you and I have walked a very similar path. At different times in our personal journeys, but some of the life experiences are so very similar. And yet, you are still standing, resilient with a great sense of humour. I hope to adopt some of your traits.
07 Feb 24 by member: Annisworkingonit
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Thank you!! Life can be hard. We make lemonade out of lemons.
07 Feb 24 by member: -MorticiaAddams
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Yes I'm definitely excited
07 Feb 24 by member: buenitabishop
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