03 Feb 19 by member: LothaireD
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Somebody spoke about this a few months ago. People like to see you succeed but not do better than them. Women can be unreal eh. You just continue with your journey and take no notice. Congrats on your excellent weight loss thus far. Keep it up!
04 Feb 19 by member: SwoleMateBunny
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Thanks for the support all. I just had to get it off my chest.
04 Feb 19 by member: Espeecee
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@LCFF so true. There are so many possible reasons behind people's actions or comments. For some, they want you to remain the fat friend so they can keep all the attention. For others, it's because they've tried and failed at weight loss. But we've all been there I think. I've lost and gained too many times to count. Instead of being supportive and trying to learn how they can use your tools to also succeed, it's better to put you down.
Thanks. I'll definitely do my best to keep it up. I've come too far. I'm just going to keep pushing on and paying no mind.
04 Feb 19 by member: Espeecee
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I share your frustration. If I have to hear one more time that: "shame you must be in a lot of pain to have lost so much weight" I'm going to scream. It took me a year to get there not overnight! Hang in there. Well done for your achievement.
04 Feb 19 by member: YoliesP
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You are awesome. To have stayed on this journey for 4 years shows exactly how committed you are to taking responsibility for your health. Anyone who cannot celebrate this with you needs to take a long look at themselves to understand why they cannot be happy for you. You will probably find that your outlook on life has changed on this journey as well, and they do not know how to be around a happier, more confident you.
04 Feb 19 by member: JS MysMan
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They all stuffing jealous because they are fat and lazy. If you feel good about yourself then that is all that counts. Revel in your success. Well done and tell the jealous crowds to shut up 🤐
04 Feb 19 by member: debbieskops
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Completely agree😤 sometimes Im temped to say "who asked you..?"
04 Feb 19 by member: Juanita Christians
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Ignore people who have never had to lose a lot of weight. They think they know it all which is far from the truth. Thanks for sharing, and keep doing what is working for you :)
04 Feb 19 by member: lee_za
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They're jealous. Tell them to FO and keep their nose out of your business :)
04 Feb 19 by member: Msalicat1
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Such a pity to have people whom you would hope would share the joy of your weight loss be critical instead ... I can totally understand the frustration because what you have achieved came with lots of hard work and emotional toil... it is true, someone who has never had to loose a lot of weight will not understand what it takes and can therefore not appreciate your achievement. Well done to you for staying on the journey and keep going... I am so encouraged by you.👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
04 Feb 19 by member: MariaManoto
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@LothaireD 😁. true beans indeed.
04 Feb 19 by member: Espeecee
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@YoliesP
Well done to you too. Yes it can be so frustrating to hear such things. I just don't understand some people's inability to grasp how it's a good thing. Keep it up.
04 Feb 19 by member: Espeecee
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@JS MysMan
Thank you😁 You're so right. There have to be underlying factors. Not everyone likes change. Especially huge changes. When a person changes an aspect of their lives drastically people begin to wonder how this will effect the relationship. Its easier for you to stay the same rather than for them to adapt to the new situation. I've heard people say that they did have a positive change in attitude, confidence, demeanour etc. Not sure I'm there yet .
04 Feb 19 by member: Espeecee
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@debbieskops Thanks 😂😂 I had a good laugh reading your response. Oh! If only it were that simple. The negative ones are actually mostly average sized and in good health. I have been tempted to tell them to shut up but there are certain bridges I can't burn. As for the rest, I may very well tell them. I do feel good about myself. I need to let that feeling override the negativity. At the end of the day I know what I want and I'm doing something about it.
04 Feb 19 by member: Espeecee
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@Juanita Christians
I totally get that! I'm just going to try to hold my tongue for now, rather than say something that I'll regret later.
04 Feb 19 by member: Espeecee
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@lee_za
Thank you. Yes its best to ignore them. All of the sudden everyone is a dietician 😂 😌 Some people just don't understand and so they can't appreciate your struggle. I will, as you said, keep doing what's working for me
04 Feb 19 by member: Espeecee
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@Msalicat1
🤣🤣 Yes, I think some of them are jealous. I get that cause I've been there. But why can't they be jealous in silence 😂
04 Feb 19 by member: Espeecee
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@MariaManoto
It's quite a sad state. Like you said it's hard work and they don't understand. Neither are they trying to understand. The "eat less, move more" mentality has made what can be a very difficult journey seem like a simple formula to those that never had to try using it; Its not easy and there can be many pitfalls along the way. So they don't understand how belittling, being critical of, or not acknowledging the achievement is such a blow. Its not going to deter me at all. Onwards and upwards!
Thanks for your words of encouragement and likewise I'm glad you're encouraged by me.
04 Feb 19 by member: Espeecee
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Agree. And I get so annoyed cause they way the asking it’s like something is medically not right with you especially when they see that you eating right and working out.
But I learnt not to respond to the criticism, keep pushing your goal.
04 Feb 19 by member: IpelengSerobatse
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