jade electro ink's Journal, 04 Sep 19

First, you don't look like a stupid ogre. :) If you have seen Shrek, they are cute, but thanks for the reminder that made me think the cat in Shrek is rather sexy... Again, please don't be harsh on you. Okay, down to business: you sound stressed and overwhelmed. Take a step back and breathe. You're busy and many people are, we aren't going to get everything right on every day. Maybe with a bit of planning ahead for tomorrow, you can try to get ahead of all you need to do. This could be like planning meals in advance or setting specific times to speak to clients etc. There are only so many hours in the day to do what you need to and somethings it is ok to let something fall off the table now and then... Most importantly, in all of this, you need to find time for you too. Sometimes getting up 15 minutes earlier or going to bed later can make a world of difference. If none of this is helpful, I apologise, but know that you are not alone in trying to cope with everything that makes demands on you and your time during the day. :)  

Thanks so much it helps to know im not alone i will try the planning thing im really trying to not over eat on the wrong stuff aswell. A year ago i wad 10 kgs lighter i figure i lost that weight wrong i pushed myself so hard atr 800 cal per day and i lost fast but seemed to be not so consistant in keeping it off when stress hit i went flying up the scale so now im doing this sloew trying to cut things out like chocolate and night treats also carbs witch are my down fall.. i apreciate the advice thanks so much 

Might i add i was drinking cambogia and protien shakes as meal replaccements i stoped that and now i dont do shakes anymore as money is way to tight.....i feel like cause i forced myself to not eat and replace sometimes up to 2 meals a day with protien shakes i lost at a advantage but gained it back fast...  

This is just my personal observation, so it is not worth anything: take it or leave it :) I personally don't care for shakes as a meal replacement or any appetite suppressants or regulators as to me it is not the normal way I will eat in the long run or when my "diet" is done. You lose the weight, but you probably will pick it up when you stop, so that is not a route that I consider as effective. What this app has taught me is to play with ingredients to match the amount of calories I need. Your own calories, Jade, because I looked at your diet calendar is not consistent. Some days high, some days low - you aren't giving your body time to adjust and sometimes definitely eating way too little in my opinion. Eating too little sends your body into starvation mode, and it holds on to every calorie it can as a form of protection against what it sees as a threat - too little food/nutrition/ sustainance. I think you are eating too little because at 53kg, I struggle to keep my own calories at 1200 and not go over. 1200 calories means I need to find meals that are nutritious AND filling. I can not do 800 without going on a snack binge... It takes work to think about what I eat, because I do have snacks like chocolate or cake... This is what I eat: I need to work around what my normal habits are. So my own weight loss has been VERY slow - around 1.5kg per month, but it has been consistent over six months, and I have trained my body and to the calorie deficit of normal eating - and learned to estimate what the calories are and how to make better food combinations for three meals a day and substitute ingredients (like cream cheese for hard cheese or spinach for butternut when I need to keep my calories lower on a meal). Also please know that I fall off the wagon often over a day or two and that is ok with me: 80% good and 20% off the rails (snacks, too much of a good thing!) is okay too in the overall picture. My primary goal is not weight loss, but health and healthier options, so that has helped with what I buy and what I cook or eat. Good luck going forward, because with time, you will find a pattern that actually will work for you. Got to hit some "lemon" options as I have but hey, you learn from them :) 

Thanks so much for tge advice i think i needed to hear that yes im inconsistant in eating and also forget to add food here somedays..... allthough i am exersizing everyday now and im looking at like you say healthy options 7 years ago i went from 96kg to 68 in a year with pilates and tae bo also just cut sugar and carbs atm im on half a sugar in my coffee in the morning and thats that carbs is harder so i opt for smaller portions of whole wheat or rye no rice or pasta's and i eat tgem lunch time no later i suffer from night eating and am trying to control that my husband is super lean he is a mma fighter and he can eat 10 mcdonalds burgers and not gain anything...me i look at it and boom 10kgs added hahaha