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"How to talk to your daughter about her body, step one: Don't talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.
Don't say anything if she's lost weight. Don't say anything if she's gained weight.
If you think your daughter's body looks amazing, don't say that. Here are some things you can say instead:
"You look so healthy!" is a great one.
Or how about, "You're looking so strong."
"I can see how happy you are -- you're glowing."
Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.
Don't comment on other women's bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.
Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.
Don't you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don't go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don't say, "I'm not eating carbs right now." Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.
Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and that's a good thing sometimes.
Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you'll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn't absolutely in love with.
Prove to your daughter that women don't need men to move their furniture.
Teach your daughter how to cook kale.
Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.
Pass on your own mom's recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside.
Maybe you and your daughter both have thick thighs or wide ribcages. It's easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Don't. Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her ribcage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants.
Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul."
~ Sarah Koppelkam via The Cosmic Dancer
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📷: Rockabetty25
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1435 kcal
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Fat: 66.56g | Prot: 82.75g | Carbs: 136.40g.
Breakfast: Tastefully Simple Roasted Garlic Infused Olive Oil, Jarrow Formulas Whey Protein French Vanilla, Maxwell House International Cafe Orange, Laird Superfood Cacao Creamer, Egg, Sarabeth's Orange Apricot Marmalade, Dave's Killer Bread Thin-Sliced Good Seed Organic Bread, Aqua de Jamaica (hibiscus ice tea), Heritage beans, HEB Pork Carnitas. Lunch: Jarrow Formulas Whey Protein French Vanilla, Tru-Nut Powdered Peanut Butter, Ranch Granola, Manitoba Harvest Hemp Hearts Shelled Hemp Seeds, Sweet Heart Milled Chia Seeds, The Greek Gods Traditional Plain Greek Yogurt, Trader Joe's Frozen Blueberries, Wheat Montana Milled Flax Seed. Dinner: Kikkoman Ponzu Sauce, Roasted Broiled or Baked Chicken Breast, Lundberg Wild Blend Rice, Spinach (Chopped or Leaf, Frozen). Snacks/Other: Haagen-Dazs Chocolate Peanut Butter Ice Cream. more...
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1565 kcal
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Exercise:
Housework - 2 hours, Swimming (slow) - 45 minutes, Resting - 13 hours and 15 minutes, Sleeping - 8 hours. more...
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😂😂 Thanks for the good laugh.
I talk to ALL of my children, daughters & sons, about their bodies, health, exercise, nutrition and managing their expectations. It's my job so they don't believe baloney they may read or are hurt by others that don't know or care about them. No offense intended.
27 Jun 21 by member: 2melons
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Us, this touched my soul as well. I have shared it with everyone I know.
27 Jun 21 by member: Kenna Morton
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There are so many ways to "go wrong" and so much blame is passed on to parents for the difficulties and or disorders our children face. I wish I had known many things written here when my children were younger. There are ways we messed up, but I also think we are ok to tell our children they are beautiful inside and out. Obesity is a massive problem in my family, so we wanted to teach our children portion control and that eating healthy food makes for the best choices. Why can't we talk about food and staying active like we can about drugs and alcohol and the dangers or stealing from the corner store? We really can't... we have to be so much more careful in some ways because of all the images that push and push our babies to hate themselves and see imperfections. It is so hard. Our children can die from anorexia. They can live a life with debilitating disease from obesity. It is so damn hard. All we want is for them to live beautiful, healthy lives. God help us.
27 Jun 21 by member: melissatwa
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Well I fucked that all up. 😬
28 Jun 21 by member: davidsprincess
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No regrets. I took her to the gym with me all the time, got her interested in sports. She texted me saying how happy she was that I taught her exercise and hard work makes you happy. Screw all those "don't do this, don't do that".
28 Jun 21 by member: lourock1
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Love this. Weirdly, most of these lessons came from my dad. My mom was constantly comparing me to other girls my age, growing up - not just physically but also academically ("I heard so-and-so is getting an A in this class" when I didn't have one, etc). Thank goodness I had my dad to balance that out - he encouraged me without ever comparing me, and demonstrated why being strong/healthy/independent/well-educated is important. I'm so thankful for this every day. The confidence itself is life-changing; I've had to do minor handy fixes around my condo, and not only did I just know that I had the strength to do it, I also knew I had the ability to figure out how to do it. Thanks, dad. ❤️
28 Jun 21 by member: she_loves
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28 Jun 21 by member: ridemariel
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It's truly crazy how many eating disorders are rampant in my generation among men and women and it's technically from parents - but most of the blame is honestly the diet culture the parents fell victim too and inadvertently pushed onto their kids. A generation of slim fast shakers, jillian michaels fans, and diet pill takers has a toll on a person AND their family! On a weight loss site like this there's a very thin line between wanting to be skinny and wanting to be healthy, and those with kids have to tread it even lighter. Any parent that does their best for them and their kid deserves praise ❤️
28 Jun 21 by member: tina.and.tito
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It's truly crazy how many eating disorders are rampant in my generation among men and women and it's technically from parents - but most of the blame is honestly the diet culture the parents fell victim too and inadvertently pushed onto their kids. A generation of slim fast shakers, jillian michaels fans, and diet pill takers has a toll on a person AND their family! On a weight loss site like this there's a very thin line between wanting to be skinny and wanting to be healthy, and those with kids have to tread it even lighter. Any parent that does their best for them and their kid deserves praise ❤️
28 Jun 21 by member: tina.and.tito
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Thank you Kenna, definitely needed this!
28 Jun 21 by member: MamaCabral7
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The key to many things in life is to teach your kids to be CRITICAL THINKERS. To understand the Importance of learning and seeking information for themselves and trying to make better informed decisions. We see it here on FS all the time— people who do this diet or that WOE, having absolutely no understanding of the purpose of that WOE, the potential pitfalls,. The power of curiosity and learning is real. The data, the information is out there for the seeker.
28 Jun 21 by member: Kenna Morton
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