I'm not depressed. BTW. I am not sad. Just rethinking.
29 Mar 22 by member: davidsprincess
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I completely understand your post. I had to do the same thing rethink what I was doing and it helped me tremendously to not worry about Intake of certain foods and such.we are all in a race we cannot win so I do what makes me happy and f#$k the rest
29 Mar 22 by member: mountainman2
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you're right to ease off. No one can truly know our pain (or our joys). I've enjoyed (related to) those who do share both.
29 Mar 22 by member: Bopuc
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Sounds like you need a social media break. Take a week, longer if that’s what you need. Try pen to paper as you rethink things. You’ll figure it out.
29 Mar 22 by member: Katsolo
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No need to input calories or activity or weigh in. I'm actually trying to get away from that myself because it is what keeps me "normal weight" but also drives me crazy and lets me keep up with more bad habits than I think is ideal. I've seen some people only post photos of food without having a diary, only post a life update from time to time or just check in how it's going without including numbers. And maybe support/comment. I think those are fine ways to use the site.
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Answer to question about if there is anyone in world just moving and a healthy weight without obsession: yes but in our modern food world, you have two choices. Either they don't eat most of that stuff most of the time or they eat it as much as they want but track it and have to watch the amount. Maybe it's good for you to be away from FS for a bit if the food posts and tips and weight discussion is not good for you now.
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Some people who track never have an issue with it and they don't feel deprived or obsessed with food. But a lot of people do. And for a lot of people having a sliver of cake and having to weigh it, even if it's every day, feels like restriction or not satisfying because they are not like people who have never had a weight issue or never felt the desire to overeat and done it for years. I don't know if it's possible to truly change what you want to eat, how much and completely move away from monitoring everything. But MOST people struggle moderating highly delicious foods that are everywhere so it's not just you.
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What's more crazy is then trying to make sure that I am doing this just for me to be healthy- not as ONE MORE WAY to lose weight. If it happens- it happens.
29 Mar 22 by member: davidsprincess
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Thanks, cupcake- and everyone else.
29 Mar 22 by member: davidsprincess
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No matter what you decide, I want you to know that I've always enjoyed your posts and wish you only the BEST in the days ahead💙🤗
29 Mar 22 by member: CrystalJo74
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Do what’s needed DP. If a break is it, take it. You’ll be missed, just tell big D to let us know how you are if you never return. I hope that isn’t the case. If it is, you’ve been one of my favs on here and I remember the day you showed up!!! I just hope this isn’t going to be a memory of the day you left. 😞❤️🙏
29 Mar 22 by member: wifey9707
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Best of luck with taking time away from here. Hope to see your comments back on here some day.
29 Mar 22 by member: smtowngirl
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DP, I think we all have times like you are experiencing. You are a favorite and will be missed but do what is right for you! It's a slippery slope, this journey we are on. Highs are great but the lows can be frustrating and depressing. Just remember you have lots of support from your FS family and if you leave, we will all be waiting with open arms if you decide to call me back.
For me, I'd just like to say thanks for supporting me. I see your " likes" on my posts and it makes me happy💜
29 Mar 22 by member: Diana 1234
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Ugh..I hate autocorrect! Not call me back..I meant come back!
29 Mar 22 by member: Diana 1234
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Wow! This is only my second day on here. I had no idea there was such community spirit. It's good to know that I'm not the only one having food debates with people. Not so long ago I was arguing with my wife, about diet vs. moderation. She thinks any kind of diet is mentally unsustainable. I was arguing that you can't win eating the "Western Diet" even in moderation. I'm a compulsive eater. I eat to feel 10/10 full every time. My wife is an intuitive eater. Somewhere in her brain, a little voice says, 'That's enough,' and she's satisfied. It boggles my mind. I have no such voice. I like this app so far because it shows me whether or not I've eaten what a normal person would eat (for me, every pizza or pint of ice cream is a single serving). I like it as a guide, not a master. It's just showing me what I'm already doing, good or bad. BUT to rephrase, I don't think you can eat a "Western" high fat, high salt, high sugar diet and win. So right off the bat, in order to be "healthy" people like us have to go into a self-imposed Isolation from our own self-destructive food culture in order to keep our heads and bodies from exploding. It's a lot to take on.
29 Mar 22 by member: MailmanAusty
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Completed understand. ❤ I am constantly thinking I just want to live a normal life that makes sense to me. Weighing myself and my food is insane when I really think about it and not being a so-called healthy weight or looking how I want to in clothes or not having enough energy to do the things I want to, all make me feel like a failure. My dilemma is how far do I go in accepting myself and honestly, this loving myself strategy is freaking hard and sometimes feels just plain stupid, especially at my age. At times moving forward is what works best for me, other times staying still is best, and still at other times I have to go backwards in order to work something out that I missed. I am just now learning that all of these situations are okay and even good, in order for me to be content with myself, those around me and my life. All this "me" talk to say you do what's right for you right now. You're an intelligent woman and have the answers. Listen to those messages within and block out those messages from the outside. ❤
29 Mar 22 by member: _bec_ca
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Sorry for a million comments but I was thinking about this. Aside from people who aren't in love with food, the only people who can actually eat whatever they really want whenever the want and as much as they want are endurance athletes or people on their feet a big portion of the day, often moving heavy stuff. And that takes it toll too. And if the issue is being too in love with or focused on food, even then it is never enough, even if to other people it looks like the dream. If someone can eat a biggish piece of cake or half a pizza a few times a week and not have it affect their health or weight too much, they start wanting two slices of cake or cake and ice-cream on the same day, or a whole pizza. I believe when food takes a more neutral place and something else matters more, you can be free of its hold and not need those things or so much of them. But I don't know how to get there because I too love food and always want more.
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You are a Beautiful woman inside and out. I have enjoyed sharing this space with you! I love all of your posts Because you are Real. I too took a break from the FS world. It's been great since I came back.
You are in my prayers. I hope that you find your "normal path".
29 Mar 22 by member: SLYONE 22
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Hang in there, try a new plan, reduce not eliminate
29 Mar 22 by member: bigbtn
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29 Mar 22 by member: LulisB13
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