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ok so my bff is doing this thing called skinny fiber, its some pills you can take and according to her you don't change your diet and you never have to exercise. I don't want to offend any one who takes it but I feel its a load of crap. My real gripe here is my friend is 270 lbs and about 5'2. She needs a hernia operation but the dr wont operate until she loses 40lbs, this is what they told her 4 yrs ago and she still wont move her butt. She has been my friend for 30 yrs and it annoys the heck out of me that she sits here and complains she cant lose any weight, nags me to buy skinny fiber and post these pics online about all the crap she is eating then whines she cant lose 5 lbs. I'm not complaining, I'm asking for advise bc I love her and I tried the nicest way ever to tell her that skinny fiber is a crock and she needs a good diet and exercise to lose weight bc its obviously not working. Im scared to get in her face and risk losing her over this but Im seriously worried. Ive tried everything, even offered her.. when you go walk, call me and Ill walk here (we live in different cities) and it will be like we are walking together and nothing. FS buddies, I know weight loss is a personal journey, but should I continue to be nice and keep dropping subtle hints or should I just get in her face and set her straight?
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Fat: 105.66g | Prot: 78.70g | Carbs: 42.85g.
Breakfast: Gouda Cheese, Jennie-O Turkey Hot Dogs. Lunch: Green String Beans, Beef Tenderloin (Trimmed to 1/8" Fat). Dinner: Lemon Juice, Olive Oil, Bell Peppers, Onions, StarKist Foods Chunk Light Tuna in Water (Pouch), Mixed Salad Greens, Capers. Snacks/Other: Tillamook Colby Jack Cheese, Atkins Endulge Milk Chocolate Caramel Squares, Atkins Advantage Milk Chocolate Delight Shake, Splenda No Calorie Sweetener Packets, Cocoa Powder (Unsweetened), Spectrum Organic Virgin Coconut Oil, Laura Scudder's Old Fashioned Peanut Butter Nutty. more...
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3476 kcal
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Exercise:
Treadmill - 30 minutes, Desk Work - 8 hours, Housework - 1 hour and 15 minutes, Resting - 6 hours and 15 minutes, Sleeping - 8 hours. more...
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Do you tell her about your success and what you are doing? You are making good progress with Atkins, maybe she can join you doing Atkins. The only way to make a lasting change is to start a new WOE ;)
You can tell your friend you are happy with Atkins and have no need (interest) in adding skinny fiber to your WOE. Has she told you she has no interest in trying Atkins? If so, why should you feel bad about turning down the skinny fiber?
28 Mar 15 by member: LambiePi
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28 Mar 15 by member: LambiePi
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She refused to believe in anything else other than skinny fiber, ever though she has seen atkins work for me.She claims the dr. told her husband to continue to take even though they have been on this 90 day challenge and havent even lost 5 lbs between the 2 of them. I just dont understand how some people can be so blinded.It wouldnt bother me if I didnt care about her but I also feel like I should just mind my own biz and worry about myself. It been hard enough for me as it is. But Im not that type of person and kinda almost feel like she needs a intervention of some sort.
28 Mar 15 by member: redgirl1974
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I guess they will have to figure it out on their own. Keep sharing your success with them, they might get the message at some point.
28 Mar 15 by member: LambiePi
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That is a tough situation - people who do not make an effort for their own health are frustrating. Perhaps tell her how much you love her and you are worried about her health and wish she would try a more effective approach because you want her around for few more year...
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Very interesting. In a situation like hers, she should be curious and open to...anything..that gives results. The fact she is holding on to the "fiber" is because it seems that it clams that she does not need to make an effort, or change anything in her life. I do not know how old she is, but at 5'2' 270lb must be crushing her at every moment of the day and night. I can soon become dangerous. Many years ago I too have been at my highest at 263 lb, at 5'9", and I could hardly breath or bend to tie my shoes. She may need a little inspiration. It sounds that her husband is also having a weight problem. Anyone counseling them? And yes, it should be pretty obvious what she needs to do, just by watching you. I do not get it...It is sad that people can be so afraid...because I think that's what it is...she is afraid.
29 Mar 15 by member: auroraioanid
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I agree with you when it comes to taking things. I don't believe they work. It all comes down to watching what you eat and exercise--even with surgeries. I know people who have had gastric bypass and the bands. They have to watch what they eat and exercise. If they had done that to begin with, they would have lost. I'm not one to talk, because I've put way too much weight on, but I do know it's because of eating and lack of exercise and I am willing to change it. Sometimes being a friend, you have to sit down and just say what's on your mind. I wouldn't be aggressive about it, but I would just say you'd like to express your opinion without her getting angry with you.
29 Mar 15 by member: Jillzee00
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Thin people do not pop pills to stay skinny: they exercise regularly, they don't pig out, and they drink lots of fluids. To be thin, one must act thin. She's just looking for a way to continue her current lifestyle, and what better way than to ADD fiber or pills?
29 Mar 15 by member: soonsoonsoon
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Only you know how she would respond to the "in your face" approach. Sometimes a person truly has to hit bottom before they can start the climb back up. I tried for years to help a friend in the same boat and she wanted none of it. Had gastric bypass to lose weight fast and suffers every side effect there is. Now she is sorry but it is too late. Hope you get through to your friend so she can get healthy again.
29 Mar 15 by member: Bethlauren8
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Soonsoon, I like what you said, bc its sooo true of her. She hasn't changed any of her bad habits, like eating out every other day .Bethlauren,I also agree with you. She needs to hit rock bottom and sadly it may be in the form of diabetes for high blood pressure. Its just so annoying bc the calls me for support and says she is depressed bc she isn't loosing weight. I talked to her Friday and told her to be honest at her next doctors visit and to be honest with her self.I even suggested phentermine to her bc anything is better than what she is doing now. Ive decided,sadly, to give up, bc I realize I cant control anyone but myself. Ive made my self available,told her how I feel skinny fiber is a crock and told her about my wonderful loss. Its up to her now and I dont want to lose a friendship that we have had for 30 years over this. She is coming up in a few months and Im sure she will see the HUGE difference on me. Im 4 lbs away from 30 lbs lost. Im going to continue to offer support as much as I can and hope she wakes up.. Thank you everyone for your wonderful advice and support.This may sound corny but I couldnt have made this far without all the support and advice I get here!! Happy Sunday every one..
29 Mar 15 by member: redgirl1974
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Thanks Draglist... love the before and after pics!!way to go!
29 Mar 15 by member: redgirl1974
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Change is scary, even terrifying to some people. Someone said that your friend like the fiber pill because she doesn't have to change anything about her life. When I started back on FS, my WOE was very different from what it is now. In fact, if you had told me that I would be allowing my children to eat the cookies instead of me, I would have laughed. That wasn't me--I couldn't even picture it! You know your friend, but if it were me, I would just approach it in a serious manner, tell her you are frightened for her health and you want to have her around for a long time to come. Maybe even explain this site and how there are people trying all sorts of different ways to make themselves healthier and lose some weight along the way. There is no one right path, but if you try one thing and it doesn't work, you need to try something else until you find what works. She is lucky to have a friend who cares so much for her.
29 Mar 15 by member: izzypup68
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I'm with Izzypup68. If she comes here she'll have other options to explore with other people doing those options as well. Maybe she won't feel like she's trying those options out on her own. I know you're trying to be there for her from afar, but if say she ends up doing the Wallawallapallooza and you're doing the Oompaloompa it may help her to have people doing the Wallawallapallooza she can relate to. IF that makes any sense.
29 Mar 15 by member: maelynpeacock
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